Gay Dads Need Doulas, Too

rainbow-dadAs a postpartum doula supporting LGBTQ families, and a queer-identified man myself, I often feel that my community gets left out of the early parenting support world.

Labor support is usually tailored to the gestational or birthing parent, as it should be. But babies come into this world with all different types of parents ready to welcome them, including eager mommies/daddies/abbas/mamas/papas/babas/zazas/spunkles, etc. Why not make the support that’s offered just as diverse as the many different types of families out there?

Postpartum support needs to be culturally competent. Families who don’t fit the mold of your average two-parent heterosexual household deserve sensitive care that’s attuned to the whole family’s wellbeing. If you’ve just done the exhausting work of birthing a baby, the last thing you should have to worry about is whether your doula will need a primer on terminology or “trans 101” in order to effectively serve your family. If you’ve invested years of emotional energy and resources to create your family, the support team you’re surrounded by when baby comes home should be equally invested in you and your baby’s health and happiness. If you’ve undergone fertility treatments to conceive, dealt with systems of oppression throughout your pregnancy and birth, or faced ignorance within the medical community, you’ll understandably need a lot of rest and support to heal from those traumas.

The only thing someone with a new baby should have to worry about is meeting their infant’s needs — and getting as much sleep as possible.

Whether you’re starting (or expanding) your family via birth, surrogacy, or adoption, the first few months of a baby’s life are both challenging and joyful for ALL parents. Being lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and/or queer doesn’t magically improve one’s ability to cope with sleep deprivation, blowout diaper changes, an inconsolable infant, or postpartum depression. However, being prepared with the right support team in place will ensure that those early days are manageable and full of joyful, memorable moments of bonding with your little one.

Postpartum doulas provide emotional, physical, and educational support to families welcoming a new baby. We meet your family exactly where you’re at. And guess what? You don’t have to be chest/breastfeeding or recovering from giving birth to benefit from hiring a postpartum doula. Some of my favorite clients to date have been gay dads who simply needed an extra set of hands, some emotional support, and hands-on education around how to care for their baby. The early days with an infant can be bewildering for everyone, regardless of sexual orientation and gender identity.

That Doula Guy is proud to provide inclusive, empowering, compassionate postpartum support to LGBTQ families of all shapes and sizes.

2 thoughts on “Gay Dads Need Doulas, Too

  1. Reblogged this on Mamma's Instincts and commented:
    Mamma’s Instincts is Postpartum Doula support that embraces your unique family~
    “Whether you’re starting (or expanding) your family via birth, surrogacy, or adoption, the first few months of a baby’s life are both challenging and joyful for ALL parents. Being lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and/or queer doesn’t magically improve one’s ability to cope with sleep deprivation, blowout diaper changes, an inconsolable infant, or postpartum depression. However, being prepared with the right support team in place…….”
    That Doula Guy says it all clearly……..

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